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Fillable PDF tools for anyone facing domestic abuse, false allegations or a high-conflict separation. Instant downloads.
Calm Contact: The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Toolkit
Every message turns into an argument. Every handover feels like a trap. And the children are stuck in the middle.
You can't control the other parent. You can control your side. Calm Contact gives you the tools to do it.
Inside:
• The CALM reply method: four steps to answer any message without getting pulled in
• 30 ready-to-use reply templates for changes, handovers, school, health, money, accusations, holidays and new partners
• Before and after examples showing the reply that feeds it, and the calm one that ends it
• Handover scripts: what to say at the door, to your child, and when it goes wrong
• A fillable parallel parenting plan covering schedule, holidays, school, health, money, travel and communication
• How to talk to your children, with guidance by age
• Contact, messages, child costs and wellbeing logs
• Where to get help
36 pages and 700 fillable fields. Fill it in on screen in Adobe Reader, your browser or Preview on a Mac, or print it.
For any separated parent dealing with a high-conflict ex. General information, not legal advice. If there's a court order, follow it.
The Record: Personal Journal and Log
When you're living with abuse, being falsely accused, or going through the family court, the details blur. Dates merge. Words get lost. And when you finally tell someone, the police, a solicitor, a judge, you're asked for specifics you can no longer remember.
The Record gives you a simple, private place to write it all down, close to the time, in plain facts.
What's inside
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24 incident pages: date, time, place, who was there, what happened, exact words said, injuries, whether children were present, evidence and where it's saved, and who you told
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Quick log for smaller things that add up over time
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Messages and calls log
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Contact and handover log for parents
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Health and wellbeing log
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Chronology builder, to turn everything into one clear timeline
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Key contacts and reference numbers page
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Guidance on keeping your record safe, and how to write entries professionals can use
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A directory of free helplines
How it works
A 49-page PDF with 1,355 fillable fields. Fill it in on screen in Adobe Reader, your web browser or Preview on a Mac, or print it and write by hand. Download it once and keep it for good.
The cover simply says "The Record: a personal journal and log", so nothing on it shows what it's for.
